Tuesdays Tantrum- Making the Bed

When Agent Daddy and I got married one of the first "difficulties" we had as a newly wed couple was when to make the bed. Agent Daddy has always had to be at work before me, and was quite exasperated to find that I did not make the bed in the morning. He said, "Honey, you are the last one out of bed so can you please make the bed so I can go to sleep in a freshly made bed?" He likes things neat and tidy and in their place. He doesn't necessarily like to to put things away... but he likes them neat and tidy. Asking me to make the bed seemed like a perfectly reasonable request to him. My response to his request? "Look I am not sure when I get up if I am read to commit to
being up for the whole day...in fact at what point are you no longer going back to bed but just going to bed earily?" Commitment has always been a issue for me.

 I am NEVER sure that I want to commit to something right away, well except maybe for shoes. I commit to shoes and the buying there of quite easily. But anything else? Should I get up today, Hair color, favorite color, favorite food...not so much. Even Agent Daddy was the third person I had actually gotten engaged to. My own brother didn't believe I would actually get married until he was trying on tuxedo's for the wedding. He remarked to Agent Daddy  "Wow she is really going to marry you." Agent Daddy's response? "Well I hope so we already paid for the wedding." So my commitment issues should not have been a surprise for him. But not being able to commit to being present for the day was beyond his ability to comprehend. He kept asking exactly what needed to happen to send me back to bed for a "do over". The truth is...almost anything back then. Bad hair, broken heel, life... all of them made me long for the comfort of just waking up and being all snugly in bed.

Finally we arrived at a compromise. Going to bed before dinner constituted going back to bed and anything after dinner was going to bed early. I would cook dinner and he would  make the bed when he got home from work....assuming I hadn't gone back to bed to "do over" the day. Its hard to make a bed when someone is still in it.

So now I know you are wondering "Does she make the kids make their beds?" Nope. On Saturdays when they clean their rooms and change their sheets the beds are made. Other than that I never mention it. The Tech Monkey, who is all Agent Daddy, keeps his room clean at all times and makes his bed every afternoon. I think that he thinks you make the be so you can get in it. Another year of therapy for him. Airborne, who is all me, makes his bed when he changes his sheets, and goes back to bed for do overs often. Someday someone will question why he gets a do over and he will discover just how crazy his mom really was. But until then he thinks that going to bed for 15-20 after a bad day is totally normal.